Skinny is not sick!

Skinny  isn’t sick!

Skinny girl…?

I am more than my body… I am more than my hair…

I am not just my skin!

I am the confidence radiating through my smile.

If you ever wondered why young people grow up hating their image, I for one, blame society.

Growing up, and even now, I have always hated my image. Disgusted by my slender physique and narrow bottom, I always strived to be a ‘Thick’ or ‘Curvy’ women.

Why?

Because society says that skinny girls are sick, or on drugs.

Because I am constantly criticized.

In other words, Skinny shaming is as bad as fat shaming, and IT NEEDS TO STOP.

There is no particular body type for REAL WOMEN.

Real women exist all over the world and they can be any size. My physical appearance has zero to do with how REAL WOMEN I am.

The other day I went for a full body massage and as soon as I undress, the therapist looked at me like I am an Alien. And she presented her hate by asking ‘Where should I massage Ma’am? On your bones? thinking that her insult is somehow flattering to me.

Whenever I am in for a full leg waxing- they comment about my long legs (Yes, I am tall and obviously my legs will be long) and thigh gap.

–          You will look much better with some meat on your body.

–          When did you last eat a decent meal?

–          You work in a restaurant and skill skinny?

Listen, I can’t help the shape of my body. Nor I want to feel ashamed of it. There is no part of it I would change and now I don’t feel any anxiety when I look in the mirror due to what is reflecting back to me.

And yes, I am not effortlessly slim. I have to work really hard at staying the size I am (rather than unhealthily underweight) by getting plenty of calories down, all day every day, force down calorie laden smoothies and cook everything I possibly can in butter.

The genes inherited from my Mother’s side of family means that I have incredibly fast metabolism.

Isn’t it sad that I have to explain myself like this?

I can’t help but feel that the society doesn’t want skinny girls to have positive view of themselves.

I am lucky that I developed a don’t care attitude lately but I often wonder how a younger, more vulnerable girl would cope with these kind of comments.

People think they are paying me some kind of inverse compliment by telling me that they hate me because how I look.

Well I am fed up with it.

I just wish that the next time someone takes it upon themselves to thin shame me-or anyone else- they would think about what they are about to say and then turn it on their head and imagine coming with something similar to a women who is overweight.

Would they tell a fat girl that they hate her because how her body is?

No.. I don’t think so. So why can it be considered OKAY to say that to me?

There is enough room for everyone to be beautiful. All women are beautiful, big or small, and there is enough room for all of us to shine. The traits and values that truly matter in the end are your kindness, generosity, openness, loyalty etc. Your body should be taken care because it houses all of those traits. But that SHELL does not define you.

I am beautiful.

You are beautiful.

Every woman is beautiful regardless of her size.

Writer :

Aadhira : Just a small town girl trapped in a big town. Amature at everything. I live for the moments you can’t put into words, and few things transcend a cup of coffee and someone to share it with.
Hotelier by profession. Still living the quarter life crisis.